Ladies and Gentlemen,

Con tu permiso…

I just wanted to let everyone know that I love you.  I wasn’t going to write that I love you all… I even deleted it a couple of times, but it was the only thing that sounded right…

LOVE is a very serious word.  Be mindful of who you love… guard your heart.  This is a very strong word, and so I hesitate to use it.  But I use it for you, you, and you, because I love you… with your permission of course.

I would never want to love you against your will, I would never ask you to keep holding on to something that just wasn’t there.  I know, I know… you’re probably like “where the HECK is she going with this”… but I promise you that although I don’t know what I’m talking about, I do know what I’m talking about… and if that makes sense to you, well then, that’s why I love you.

If you are Latino or an aspiring one, you must watch The Perez Family… it is such a good movie.  You will be touched… maybe I am in this mood because it is raining, and I am alone watching movies like Memoirs of a Geisha… which I am about to leave ya’ll for, but hey… I asked God for this time to myself… so I won’t complain…

I’m just going to let him continue to work in me…

I think I like the sound of that…

Signing Off…

 

.::Cholacoquetola::.

“Look….with all due respect your Honor..You could have mentioned that my life was going through this..You could have sent me a note, a memo, an email, a postcard..a sticker, a stick up, a something, that would have indicated to me that I was going to hit this big lump on the road and that everything in my life is going to go crazy.” - DiDi dies laughing… tru dat, tru dat… mmmph.

You could have mentioned to me that the person I love would leave me for another person… - DiDi instantly sobers up… maybe I’m longin’ for it more than I should be expecting… and then it goes right back to me learning that lesson and obedience… how about letting it be about God’s way, and not because, DiDi said so.

ooooh… I think I hit a nerve. Your last statement, that was simply and well put.  I don’t think that this POINT in my life, is the end all and be all of my life, so why do I act as if it is?  Pastor Collins talks about how we should be glad that God got a hold of us first, cuz if he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t be still trying to catch your attention after all the years of us doing wrong…, and I wholeheartedly agree with that… there is a reason why I am in the church that I am in, there is a reason, I am in the midst of the God-fearing people that I am surrounded by now.  God has a plan for me, and I think it over-extends and TRANSCENDS… (oh. you didn’t know?) what may be going on today… that’s why people will constantly bring drama my way… I think that it’s really how I go about dealing with it is what God is trying to teach me.  Like, I thought about just UP and QUITTING my job–without having another one lined-up, because I was soooo frustrated, I found myself saying “Lord, I need more structure at the workplace.” and he was like “You know very well that at your last job, you had a lot of structure there too… what are you doing about the person that’s making your life miserable @ work? You are feeding into it…” and I think that spills over into other areas of my life… but that’s to be continued in my own blogs…lol… I’m telling you man… that total, divine, about-face-change, ain’t no joke meng, but i’m just glad that he’s working in me…

um… sorry… bringing it back to your blog… Matthew 11:2-6, focus on verse 3… when he asks Jesus if he’s THE ONE, or should the people be expecting someone else… John & Jesus was homies… and because of our human nature and expectations…mmm  I mean, I guess any one of us, would have done what John did… “Hey Jesus, lemme talk to you for a second?  Ok, so like, I had ya’ back, and I was preaching against Herod, and now… I’m in dis’ hea’ cell, and I don’t see the end of all this suffer’n and freedom of sin like I thought was gonna see.  && do you know what Jesus said?  Hmmph.. someone please pass me an ice cold pepsi… Jesus says: “Blessed is the man who does not fall away on account of me.”  To tell you the truth, I didn’t understand what my Lord meant, by that fall away stuff… I mean, what was he saying?  I was going to save it for my own blog, but I think by God’s grace and only for his glory, I will share it here, I think a lot more people will read your blogs.

(I had to copy this from the book!)

In The Secret Place by Peggy Britt

she says of this scripture (Matt. 11:6) …

“Jesus’s message was loud and clear: “I am the Messiah! I am fulfilling Old Testament prophecies about the coming Messiah in the presence of your disciples and mainly others (Isaiah 53:5-6) Don’t become discouraged because I’m not doing what YOU expect me to do.”

I like her because she BREAKS IT DOWWWWWWWN even more by saying : To be “blessed” means to possess the divine favor of God — that state of being marked by fullness from God, soul contentment!

And “falling away” comes from the Greek word from which we get our word, scandalize. It means to stumble, to become offended by someone, to take offense at his character, words, conduct, to become unsettled, so as to reject him.

How often do we do that? We pray and ask God for a particular thing. When HE doesn’t answer in OUR time frame or as we would like HIM to, we get “offended” and become discouraged and unsettled in our spirit. But God has an eternal plan, and HE is working it out for our good and His Glory!

Where are you right now precious friend? Are you discouraged? Are you unsettled in your spirit? Have you been praying for something that God has not given to you? Have your circumstances become worse — instead of better? God has the same words for you. You are blessed (divinely favored) if you do not take offense at God’s character, words, or conduct. It may not seem like it just now, but difficult circumstances are opportunities to walk by faith, take God at His Word, and give HIM pleasure. (Hebrews 11:6)

.::Cholacoquetola::.

“El que perdona la ofensa cultiva el amor;
el que insiste en la ofensa divide a los amigos.” -Proverbs 17:9

Myspace was amazing, but not as wonderful as Facebook, of course

Recently, I’ve reconnected with three women (my goodness, how our gardens have grown!) who were and are still, the epitome of what a friend should be.  These women have definitely made a positive impact on my life.  I just spent the best five hours of my summer with two of them on Friday watching a movie on the state of Black and minority women in the church and in the world… I’m sayin’ ladies, can we finish it?

XD

Hanging out with them was a refreshing thing, besides the fact that I died and came back to life when saw a picture of myself that made my current self look like Swamp Thing!  How I long to be that size again! – Getting there.

But chillin’ with them also made me reflect as I was divulging in some much needed downtime today.  What makes a real friend?  Does my (in most cases) purposeful absence in their lives say something about me and my character?  I figure friendships are the same as relationships; in the sense that they aren’t supposed to be forced.  There is supposed to be a natural ebb and flow to any kind of relationship.  It is my honest opinion that all this jibber-jabber about trial and adversity making a relationship stronger is hogwash.  Define trial and adversity please.  I know that most people won’t, so I took certain liberties.

X D

Webster’s Dictionary defines the word trial in the sense that I am using it as: a test of faith, patience, or stamina through subjection to suffering or temptation; broadly speaking : a source of vexation or annoyance

And the word tribulation is defined as: distress or suffering resulting from oppression or persecution; also: a trying experience

Me & Bessie Lee were best buds in 7th grade… TOR Mr. Lewis, who strangely enough has a MySpace page as well..lol.  Bessie’s mom decided to uproot her to another state and another school, Bessie promised that she would write to me, and I was in total shock that I never received a letter.  I know that Lucifer, I mean William (my mother’s 1st husband) was the reason behind this now, but back then I didn’t know, and I was hurt.  Fast forward 13 years and here we are.  Lately, I’ve been wicked busy, and it’s NO EXCUSE, but I’m totally making a trip! Love ya tootz!

Chanelle & Geri were my ace boon coons in high school and really deserve their own paragraphs, but time and my mind would allow, because it’s 2:08 in the morning or maybe its because as they are always saying (Jamie, if you had have stayed at the Burke long enough…).  They’ve been wonderful to me, although I always pull a disappearing Jack Flash, and like I said…

it makes me wonder what kind of person I am?  What kind of impact do I leave on other people’s lives?  Do I expect too much of others?  I try not to expect anything out of anyone these days, I think its much easier that way.

“He who is not with me is against me, and he who does not gather
with me scatters.” -Luke 11:23

I’m sayin’ people… can we gather together? Mmmk? Thanks!

Signing Off…

.::Cholacoquetola::.

So, two days ago, I was standing at Andrew Station on the Red Line, waiting for the Alewife train to take me to work.  The time was approximately 8:15 A.M. and it was a dark and dreary day.  So please tell me why this Puerto Rican chick, whose code name could have been Bonequisha Star, Esq.; comes trolling down the stairs with a whole outfit from:

Yes… boo, I see the feathers poofing out of your Lockerwear Bomber Jacket :

And to me… its quite a shame that you decided to break the 5th rule of stunt:

if you’re gonna wear shades when there is not an iota of sun, then please commence to doing so properly.  I thought about this very hard, because this bothered me enough to write about it… I realized, there will be more of you committing this same offense.  So please, break out the notebooks and TAKE NOTE!

1st – If your hair is all jacked up and you have walked out of the house thinking you’re cute… and more than one person looks at you like I looked at Bonequisha (like WTF@&!)… then you need to turn your nappy-headed tail right back around and figure out some options.  But like I said I’m here to help you.  Exhibit 1:

SMDH… anyhoo… Get in the shower and wash and condition your hair… because what you got going on now… well…that is just nasty!  Towel dry and then proceed to use a dollop of leave in moisturizer and then gel them edges… but make sure you work the gel through… otherwise you will look like a glazed pernil.  If that don’t work, which I’m guessing it won’t, cuz you is something like a hustler on Geneva Ave… you need work…

Gorl! You needs to get you some TCB or some Just for ME!  Put a headscarf on that mop and catch the number 15 bus from Dudley Station in Roxbury to 533 Dudley St.  Talk to Margarita or Palma and while you is at it… get you una tratamiento! RAPIDO!  If worse comes to worse crop it close to the head and act like you Halle Berry or Toni Braxton… girl don’t cry, its just another sad love song.

White girls… ya’ll are not exempt… I be yelling at Sarah Nee for this BullS**t all the time too… how you gonna have all this long hair and not do anything with it? Heifers.  Shoot if I was you, Alicia Keys wouldn’t have nothing on me, I’d have dudes fa-all-all-alllling in love with me.

Okay, okay… so I’mma leave the girls outfit and hair out of it… because you know we all have bad hair days… and shoot, there be some cute shirts at Tello’s.  But omGOODNESS… her lips!  Big gurls! Listen to me okay, and listen to me really good… I know that we be messing up our lips by eating a lot, but take care of ‘em baby, they iz the only lips you iz ever gonna have… how you gonna catch a man with lips that looked like a cracked pleather belt?

So…. products you need to have:

MAC’s Lip Hydrator, used by its self…frikken great

Hahahahaha…. They don’t make this anymore, but don’t you wish they did? Its called Algorithm and its a really sexy gloss… its poppin’.

And for those of you who only deal with the grown and sexy…

Lustreglass in Love Nectar…

I don’t want to catch to many more of you committing these heinous acts.